The exciting stage of a new relationship or whatever you call it when you first start dating is quintessentially the most important time. It’s a time where you have to make sure you don’t ruin things by getting too far ahead of yourself. You have come to the right place to know exactly what not to do to keep your new bae around, for more than just a night.
Do not confuse emotions for attraction.
When you feel love, attraction, fear, sadness, or any other emotion, your brain likes to come up with an explanation to make sense of the feeling. This usually happens when we are in stressful situations and what about dating isn’t stressful? We are constantly waiting to be shocked, to feel anxious, excitement, and other heart-pounding emotions. This can cause you to feel attraction to someone you wouldn’t otherwise find compelling. We make a lot of mistakes because we assume what we think and feel is accurate without questioning, so challenge yourself to avoid these mistakes.
Over Facebook stalk him.
I say “over-stalk” because we are all guilty of Facebook creeping to a certain degree. I mean how many times have you gone to his page, and five minutes later you are on his cousins, Mom’s profile? Sure, you might know how many siblings he has, his dog’s name, and what color tie he wore to his High School dances, but he does not know that you know all of that. Just remember that Facebook does remember who you recently search, but also remember, there is a way to clear your search history.
Worry about the Future.
I mean, seriously? Isn’t there plenty to worry about in the now? Enjoy the moment, live in the moment, and love in the moment. I have always lived by the saying, “What is meant to be, will be.” We are given the bad apples to pick out the good ones. If the good ones, are truly that good, they will carry onto the future. And to me, that is enough.
Listen to others.
Obviously, your friends have your best interests at heart. But it is also important to follow your own intuition. To be honest, you never know if your best friend is happy for you and your relationship, or just jealous. Look out for adult dating advice that may just be benefiting them. For example, “Don’t stay in tonight, Ben can live for a night.” The truth is in this situation, I am going to do, what I want to do. It is easy for your judgment to get clouded when you like someone, but it is also important not to be blind to their flaws.